Born and raised in Vienna, Austria, Thomas moved to live in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam, in early 1997. For more than 20 years he had the opportunity to compare the “human pair-bonding” rituals in East and West, in families blessed with enormous wealth and those in the poorest corners on this planet, between people of very high formal education and others with none at all.

During his time managing an international business out of South East Asia he was quickly introduced to all kinds of karaoke clubs, billiard bars, massage parlors, Nana Plazas, Orchard Towers and other pick-up joints of very questionable nature. He came in contact with the good, the bad and the ugly in men once they were thousands of miles away from home and out of sight. 

But he also found those men who were loyal to their wife, fulfilling her every wish and carrying her through life on a silver platter. Often he found both of those men in one and the same person.

On the other side he also found women who believed in their husband without the slightest spark of a doubt, in his loyalty and the true love that, she was sure, connected them together. But also others who were out - emotionlessly and mercilessly - to find and nurture a mindless cash-cow, to rip him off of every cent he'd got while making a performance out of giving as little as possible in return and to proudly brag about it in front of their friends. 

With any judgement being essentially pointless and every mating strategy being entitled as long as there is a counterpart to play with, Thomas has always focused his studies and his teachings on the biological and natural dynamics in modern relationships between men and women. In the unconscious, instinctive streams that really drive us to do what we do rather than the traditional, religious, social, moral or (worst of all) politically correct context we are conditioned to act upon. 

While making it his life’s quest to find the Holy Grail to a life-long loving and respectful, passionate and fulfilled, marriage between a man and a woman, he discovered that there is, in fact, a structure to it. It does not happen by chance or by having been lucky to find the “right partner”. 

There are specific roles to be played in every male/female life-partnership. There is a natural femininity and a natural masculinity. Both have a significantly different physical, mental and emotional reality which are the result of a gender-specific biology and sexuality.

He discovered that there is a structure to a functioning and fulfilling marriage, which, no matter if applied consciously or unconsciously, works without fail and in which the man has more strings in his hands than he usually realizes. In his programs Thomas focuses on putting the man back in the “Driver’s Seat” and gently moving the woman (voluntarily and excitingly) over to the “Passenger Seat” - with spectacular results for both.

Having moved from a marriage where he did everything wrong to a marriage where he pulls every one of those strings right, Thomas made his knowledge available in 2010 to other committed men through one-on-one- or group-coaching sessions. 

Thomas Zagler is also the founder and creator of the Husband’s Magic Toolbox, a set of tips and tricks, nuts and bolts, hands-on tools which accomplishes exactly that move. The Husband’s Magic Toolbox is available online in spring 2012.