Whenever I meet new people they eventually ask: "So, what are you doing (for a living)?" and it's always been kind of difficult to answer for me as it often requires long explanations if that person is really interested. 

Recently I came up with a rather sharp (at least that's what I think) reply: "I teach men how to - effectively - slap their wife's butt when she behaves badly... aaand I show them how to do it in a way so that she loves him more for it."

That, naturally, raises some eye-brows, plus also the further question: "What's a woman's bad behavior?" (Some women actually ask that with a real grim look on their face.)

One major complaint from husbands about their wife that I step over again and again is that she seems not as sexually available as he would like her to be.

Men then quickly assume that their wife "just doesn't need it". Bad luck. With it they get their believes from teenage-years reconfirmed that "Women are just not as sexual as men." 

Well, here's my take on it: It is a reality that women are conditioned to hide their sexual urges, especially when they are young. And that for a good reason: There is a - very real - social punishment awaiting those who are labeled a "slut". Those women, although they appeal very much to a man's short-term sexual strategy, do have a - very real - critically reduced chance to find a life-partner of high genetic quality to mate with. Her instincts are fully aware of that fact.

(By the way, a modern woman's independence and newfound sexual freedom does not make this instinct go away!)

So, I finally got myself to do it: I've set up a blog. I have always been reluctant to do so, but do have to realize at some point that there are just too many every-day events and behaviors which I pick up (or fall into, myself) again and again and which add the extra challenge to our love-lives. 

With experience I also come to the conclusion that those are often situations which relate to many marriages and partnerships out there and which might often be worth and helpful sharing. (While never revealing identities, of course!)

As it happened, I recently had the opportunity to email-meet a close friend from old days again. PS he mentioned that he's probably moving out, just feeling regrets because of the kids.